They said it was too late, but thank God I’m hard-headed.
That’s not to say I didn’t have my doubts though, because I surely did. But for the most part, the discouraging “advice” that I got from people telling me “it’s too late”, went in one ear, traveled through my thick head, and fell out the other ear.
“Here I Am, 35, more alive than ever/livin’ the life I thought had passed me forever “
That’s a line from my song “Changin”, on my self titled debut EP, and some of the most meaningful string of words that I put together. I can’t speak for everyone, but I know I speak for a lot of people whose passions have been tossed to the side out of fear that they “waited too long”.
One of my favorite things to do is spend time with people over a cup of coffee, a beer, a glass of wine, or a light snack, and just listen to them talk about what brings them joy in life. I love to hear people talk about themselves, and what makes them “go”. Of the hundreds of conversations I’ve had with people from MANY walks of life, I’ve noticed a common theme.
People are afraid to live their lives in a way that aligns with their true essence, because they feel like they’re too “old” to be just getting started, or they feel like they wasted too much time doing the “wrong” things in life, and now they don’t have the energy to do what’s necessary to properly switch lanes.
I can relate, but I can also add value to anyone’s journey who might be reading this now, who feels like they’re ready to cut the strings that society tied to them, and just go for it, and do what brings them the most joy and fulfillment in life.
Once upon a time, I climbed to the “it’s easier said than done” idiom, as a defense mechanism to avoid facing the reality of what work I needed to put in to get something done. Anytime I would mention my dreams to someone, and they’d counter with valuable advice on how to achieve what I wanted to do, I was quick to toss that idiom out there as a way to deflect the attention from the fact that I simply was just afraid to be vulnerable enough to make my dreams come true.
And that’s what I want to focus on. Vulnerability!
That has been the key ingredient in my recipes for “success”. Especially considering I’m a “late bloomer”. You see, I spent my late teens, all of my twenties, and my early thirties trapped inside my mind, always knowing what I wanted to do, but didn’t have enough courage to blatantly defy external resistance. This eventually turned into internal resistance, because I fooled myself into believing that I wasn’t worthy of using my talents to make a living off of.
I wasn’t brave enough to face the critics out loud.
Then, one day I thought back to one of the most life-changing times of my life. I reflected on how brave my grandma was when she was going up against the ULTIMATE judge. She looked death in the eyes and said: “I ain’t scared of you, bring on whatever you got.” I heard these words leave her lips almost exactly one week before she transitioned into the afterlife.
To be honest, her valor put me to shame, because here she was ready to bravely take on whatever was waiting for her after her final breath, while I was shying away from potential ridicule for openly displaying my talents to the world. I was afraid of the scrutiny of my peers, and she was taunting death itself!
Hearing her say those words was a defining moment in my life, and to be honest, I felt pretty ridiculous being afraid of something which can easily be minimized in comparison to what she faced. And since that day, I’ve been on a mission to prove that her willingness to share her bravery with me won’t be in vain.
If you’re still in possession of your mind, you‘re still in control of your destiny. Our reservations for displaying our talents and true selves to the world will feel silly to us once we reach the end of our lives, and realize we have TRULY run out of time!
Don’t take your stage in life for granted. You might be a “late bloomer” like me, and be in your mid 30’s just now getting around to being bold enough to share your talents with the world, but just think back to 10 years ago, and how if you’re anything like me, you were STILL running game to yourself about how you were “too old” to be doing something that you loved. And in retrospect, had you taken that leap then, you’d already been 10 years into doing what you love, with plenty life left to be lived.
So drop your fear, release your inhibitions, and share your talents with the world NOW.
You are right on time!